Advice in Love Relationships

At our next appointment Scott and Karen said they were doing better in their marriage. They were spending more time together. They had begun to take walks early in the morning and were watching movies like they used to do.
Karen said, “In spite of our improvement there are still times when I don’t feel good about myself. I fall back into being submissive. I don’t like it when I do that. Is there something that I can do to help me with those times?”
“There is,” …

Scott and Karen came for counseling. They’ve been married twenty-two years. Scott is a successful businessman who owns his own company. Karen counsels the disabled. She has returned to work full time now that their two children are away in school.
Scott said, “We’re not happy, but we’re not miserable either. We have a harmonious marriage but we’ve lost our spark. I miss our laughing together.”
“How do you each understand the problem?” I asked.
Karen said, “Neither of us likes to argue. I was taught that …

Being caught up in our selves and our materialism we are in a state of apathy over our spritual poverty. We are ignoring the deterioration of our democracy and heading toward a dictatorship as Athens did when the people created financial bankrupty by voting themselves more entitlements than the government could finance. Our loss of our moral compass is evident in how we dress, our lack of commitment to our marriages and love relationships, our focus on our selves and the stuff we buy instead of caring for others …

I had last seen my friend fifty-six years ago. I was a student in his psychology class at Stanford University. At that time he was known as Richard Alpert, Ph.D. He is now known as Ram Dass. Between these two names lies an inspiring story, one in which he got de-tenured as a professor from Harvard University to be redeemed as a holy man in India. He returned to America to teach the spiritual beliefs and practices of Eastern religions to those Americans eager and yearning …

Is the Law of Attraction Paradoxical?
Have you ever given up hoping for something you wanted to happen only to have it happen? Were you delighted and surprised? I have been when this happened to me. What bothered me, however, was that I couldn’t figure out why it did happen. If the Law of Attraction worked the way I thought it would, why would it happen in this paradoxical way? I am sure this same …

There are times when I have been skeptical about the Law of Attraction and whether it really works. First, I learned that the Law did not work on my timetable but that did not mean it didn’t work. I had to recognize that my focus on myself was getting in my way. Selfishly, I want what I want when I want it. The simple truth I have learned is that my selfishness (my ego) is the source of all my pain, frustration, anger, disappointment, and sorrow.
I had …

“There is no blessedness anywhere until impatience is sacrificed; and the sacrifice means the development of endurance, the practice of forbearance, and the creation of a new and gentler habit.” – James Allen, Byways of Blessedness
My daughter, Mary (names changed for privacy), had to climb a tall mountain to have her first child at the age of 43 following four miscarriages. Her pregnancy was diagnosed within a week of conception, and for the first time she immediately was given Progesterone early enough to prevent another miscarriage. Mary lived …

“Being ignorant is not so much a shame as being unwilling to learn.”Benjamin Franklin
Kristen and William came to see me because they were on the verge of divorcing and had not yet been married one year. They were in their thirties. Kristen was about to start styling hair on week-ends as well as during the week so she could better support herself when divorced. She explained there was no reason to spend their week-ends together because there was no fun or enjoyment between them. William agreed.
I asked …

You can change your life no matter how old you are by recognizing the mistaken beliefs (dysfunctional mindsets) that limit you and your relationships.
You have to replace those mistaken beliefs with truths (functional mindsets).
It is not enough to have these new ideas or truths in you thoughts. You must hold them in your heart.
Ernestine Hendricks, the hostess on WTWG 1050 AM, and I discuss examples from my life and from my work with clients.

Ben Franklin taught us that “the early bird gets the worm” to motivate us to rise early in the day to be productive. Some people have misunderstood Franklin’s maxim as threatening scarcity. They misinterpret “the worm” to mean there is only one worm, and that only the first bird will eat. But let me ask you: when have you found only one worm in the ground?
Our nation is suffering economically. We are hurting financially, and this hurt feeds the belief that there is not enough to …