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[4 Sep 2009 | 5 Comments | ]

How to Stop Arguing for the Sake of Your Marriage: 3 quick ways–use your breathing, use thinking instead of feeling energy, use paraphrasing back your spouse’s message until he or she says you “got it.”
Fred Snyder of WGET interviews Dr. Doug on how to stop any argument, anytime.

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[24 Aug 2009 | No Comment | ]

Talk Show host “Bulldog” at WOCM interviews Dr. Doug regarding how to attract Love, Sex & Money in a marriage.  Money is a leading cause of conflict in marriages.  A lack of teamwork on their finances causes problems for spouses with trust, love, and sex.  Can two spenders or two savers work together better than a saver and a spender?

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[9 Jul 2009 | 28 Comments | ]

For many people sexual infidelity is the ultimate betrayal.  Financial infidelity or cheating with money– in which one spouse spends the couples’ joint money without telling the other– is every bit as dishonest.  You are being betrayed through money.   Many therapists and lawyers observe it is even more difficult to recover from financial infidelity than sexual infidelity.   Your spouse is spending money that also belongs to you.  The challenge to restore your trust is every bit as difficult as it is with sexual infidelity. You also are faced with …

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[16 Jun 2009 | 2 Comments | ]

The vexing problem for Kate and John is that they are allowing their marriage to be triangulated.  First by TLC and their television program, then by other people like his “dating,” her bodyguard, and whoever else.   Triangulating is putting someone or something else ahead of your spouse which now creates a triangle by making a third interest your priority.  Through triangulation they are permitting other people, or even interests such as making money by being on television, to come between them.  I would expect this process to continue unless they …

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[10 Mar 2009 | No Comment | ]

First, you have to get clear with yourself.   Put on your selfish hat thinking about what feels good for you or best for you.  Follow your thinking even if you emotions are in conflict about what’s best for you.  You will often find out when you do what is best for you it often turns out to be what is best for your relationship and your partner too. If your partner doesn’t agree, suggest that you have a conversation.  Don’t start trying to come to a solution, just focus on …

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[6 Feb 2009 | No Comment | ]

Guidelines for a successful conversation about money

Accept that you and your partner will have differences. No two people think exactly alike about money and finances. One partner tends to be the saver and the other the spender. One says we can’t afford this and the other says we can’t afford not to do this. Each position has its value.

Take full responsibility for your mindset. Recognize that your mindset is not the only way to see the world, and that it has affected how you have reacted to your …

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[6 Feb 2009 | No Comment | ]

The world as we have known it is changing dramatically.  Many financial institutions we assumed were permanent have gone bankrupt. The government is now trying to rescue the banks from the catastrophe, estimating trillions of taxpayer dollars may needed.  Sadly, even with this spending, there is no guarantee that it will solve the problem. It is a time to change the way we see the world, it is time to change our mindset. Our mindsets are a way of thinking, including beliefs and mental attitude. Our mindset determines how we interpret …

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[3 Feb 2009 | 2 Comments | ]

If you want to ask the doctor a question about your relationship, visit www.dougwelptonmd.com and he will respond to your question here on his blog!!