Advice in Love Relationships

Reasons for celebrities to have affairs using Tiger Woods as an example.

Financial Infidelity: What is it and how to stop it. Cheating with money is a major threat to marriages and a leading cause of divorce. Bob’s wife even stole his identity to register their car in her name and use it to get a loan. She pawned her wedding ring and engagement ring. She kited checks from their bank accounts and told the bank Bob did it, getting him kicked out of the bank.
She even forged checks on their 19 year old son’s account. Financial infidelity can …

One of the most painful and difficult questions you may confront is whether to stay in your marriage or leave it and end it.
Bob sent me an email about his facing this issue with his wife.  He wrote:
I am a child of divorced parents and know how difficult it is especially during family events and holidays.  I hate seeing my kids having to deal with those same emotions.  However, nearly two years ago I left the home (14 months) after she (his wife) used my 18 y/o’s bank account without his …

Gerry and Joan are like bookends.  He is as loud and talkative as she is quiet and restrained.  When it comes to their finances, as you might expect, he is the big spender and she is the saver.  Gerry works hard and brings home a substantial paycheck.  However, he also loves to spend and he often overspends compared to what he earns.  Joan does her best to constrain him.  She attempts to reason with him about not going into debt just to buy a flashier car.  In general, Gerry sees …

Prior to the recession money had not been a problem for Stan and Melissa.  Both worked full time and earned enough so they were somewhat lax about a budget.  Without warning Melissa was unexpectedly laid off.  With Melissa’s help Stan drew up a budget. They became much more thoughtful about their purchases.  They both shared a concern:  they were used to buying what they wanted with no need to check out their purchases with each other. They did not want to be policing each others purchases or having to justify …

How to Stop Arguing for the Sake of Your Marriage: 3 quick ways–use your breathing, use thinking instead of feeling energy, use paraphrasing back your spouse’s message until he or she says you “got it.”
Fred Snyder of WGET interviews Dr. Doug on how to stop any argument, anytime.

Talk Show host “Bulldog” at WOCM interviews Dr. Doug regarding how to attract Love, Sex & Money in a marriage.  Money is a leading cause of conflict in marriages.  A lack of teamwork on their finances causes problems for spouses with trust, love, and sex.  Can two spenders or two savers work together better than a saver and a spender?

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For many people sexual infidelity is the ultimate betrayal.  Financial infidelity or cheating with money– in which one spouse spends the couples’ joint money without telling the other– is every bit as dishonest.  You are being betrayed through money.   Many therapists and lawyers observe it is even more difficult to recover from financial infidelity than sexual infidelity.   Your spouse is spending money that also belongs to you on someone else.  The challenge to restore your trust is every bit as difficult as it is with sexual infidelity. You also …

The vexing problem for Kate and John is that they are allowing their marriage to be triangulated.  First by TLC and their television program, then by other people like his “dating,” her bodyguard, and whoever else.   Triangulating is putting someone or something else ahead of your spouse which now creates a triangle by making a third interest your priority.  Through triangulation they are permitting other people, or even interests such as making money by being on television, to come between them.  I would expect this process to continue unless they …