How to Discuss Money without Arguing or Fighting
Host Don Campbell and I discuss the unintended consequences of divorce. Money is one of the leading causes of divorce, especially when a spouse has the mindset that your partner should think like you do, that is, that your partner who is a spender should become a saver or vice-versa.
There are several steps each of which adds to your success in a money conversation. Starting by giving your partner a reward that they want at the end of your discussion helps build pleasure into what can otherwise be just a painful conversation.
Appreciating how your partner’s differences contribute to your financial relationship helps.
Learning to discuss money like business partners without criticizing or blaming is essential.
You each take responsibility for your thoughts and feelings and commit to one activity you will begin to do immediately to help financially.
You each learn to focus on carrying out your activity and sharing your appreciation over what your partner carries out.
You finish by giving each other the rewards you asked for, like a foot massage or a back rub, listening to a piece of music, holding hands–activities that bring pleasure to your money conversation.