Kate and John Gosselin plus Eight–Can this marriage be saved?
The vexing problem for Kate and John is that they are allowing their marriage to be triangulated. First by TLC and their television program, then by other people like his “dating,” her bodyguard, and whoever else. Triangulating is putting someone or something else ahead of your spouse which now creates a triangle by making a third interest your priority. Through triangulation they are permitting other people, or even interests such as making money by being on television, to come between them. I would expect this process to continue unless they recognize it will only get worse until they commit to stopping it. It would be easy at this point for them to focus on their children and triangulate by putting them first ahead of each other. Their marriage can be saved but only when they put each other first and stop triangulating. I would bet they grew up with triangulation in their families of origin, which is why they allow it unconsciously without seeing how destructive it is to their marriage.