Advice in Love Relationships

Being a sex addict is not an excuse for lust or compulsive sex. Admitting you are a sex addict is the first step toward recovery. Recovery is a challenging process of weaning. The addict must learn to give up acting on impulse. He must give up the feeling of entitlement that he has a right to whatever he wants. He has to develop the boundaries and discipline to say ‘no’ to himself before engaging in sex, before touching, …

In their show “The Bottom Line of Romance” my discussion with Larry Arnette and Sharon Stevens discusses sexual and financial infidelity using Tiger Woods affairs as an example.  The sudden shattering of his pristine image has shocked the world and his fans, and the initial cover up has provoked more media attention to the full story and details, creating a conflict between “too much information” and “celebrity gossip.”  With the admission of his affairs Tiger Woods has lost his previous image but freed himself from living a secret double life.  …

Sex addiction is promoted by our society’s focus on lust and the false idea that lust promotes good sex and even love. Sex addiction can be healed through knowledgeable counseling and recovery groups.

Cheating is a symptom that something is missing. Usually the unfaithful partner is feeling: 1) the loss of romance,sex,& excitement. It is easier to fall in love than to stay in love; 2) the lack of connection and communication including the difficulty discussing touchy subjects like money, sex, & in-laws causing emotional distance between partners; 3) wavering self-acceptance and self-esteem causing the unfaithful partner to seek approval, admiration, and esteem from other people. The unfaithful partner may feel superior or inferior to others, neither of which is reliable self-esteem. Affairs …

What got Tiger Woods to throw away what appeared to be a perfect life? Something was missing: do he and Elin talk? Was it his father’s death? Golf as a childhood? His parents’ separation? His wife’s first pregnancy? Can Tiger recover? Can his marriage be saved?

Gary Pozsik, host at WGCV,  interviewed me about Tiger Woods.   He asked: how could someone who had everything, like Tiger,  do what he did?  How can we explain his  affairs?  What might be the consequences for his marriage?  What would I recommend that Tiger and his wife do?

In their show “The Bottom Line of Romance” my discussion with Larry Arnette and Sharon Stevens discusses sexual and financial infidelity using Tiger Woods affairs as an example. The sudden shattering of his pristine image has shocked the world and his fans, and the initial cover up has provoked more media attention to the full story and details, creating a conflict between “too much information” and “celebrity gossip.”
With the admission of his affairs Tiger Woods has lost his previous image but freed himself from living a secret double life. …

Reasons for celebrities to have affairs using Tiger Woods as an example.

Financial Infidelity: What is it and how to stop it. Cheating with money is a major threat to marriages and a leading cause of divorce. Bob’s wife even stole his identity to register their car in her name and use it to get a loan. She pawned her wedding ring and engagement ring. She kited checks from their bank accounts and told the bank Bob did it, getting him kicked out of the bank.
She even forged checks on their 19 year old son’s account. Financial infidelity can …

Prior to the recession money had not been a problem for Stan and Melissa.  Both worked full time and earned enough so they were somewhat lax about a budget.  Without warning Melissa was unexpectedly laid off.  With Melissa’s help Stan drew up a budget. They became much more thoughtful about their purchases.  They both shared a concern:  they were used to buying what they wanted with no need to check out their purchases with each other. They did not want to be policing each others purchases or having to justify …