Advice in Love Relationships

I discuss with Ernestine Hendricks on WTWG 1050 AM how to teach our children through our own lives how to combat excesses and addictions by not giving in to our compulsions–eating, drinking, drugs, sex, gambling, smoking among others. We are the models our children imitate and emulate. We need to develop and maintain well functioning boundaries with ourselves and with others. The famous French philosopher Pascal said that most of man’s problems come from the inability to sit quietly in a room alone. Sitting quietly leads …

Tiger Woods, Jesse James, and ex-Governor Eliot Spitzer have all had sexual affairs. Sexual addiction appears to have caused them to cheat on their wives at great cost to their marriages, their families, and their careers. Feelings of shame and unworthiness underlie the lust and drive to have compulsive sex as a way to relieve feeling unworthy. Compulsively driven sex and infidelity, however, only cause more shame and feeling worth-less. A vicious circle of inner conflict and torment results. The marriages and careers of the sex addict are diminished or destroyed as a consequence.