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[7 Nov 2016 | No Comment | ]

I’m a shining bell
My perfection protects me
Nothing can penetrate
My inside is pitch black
My shell gets cracked
Brokenness opens me
I’m no longer perfect
Light enters the crack
I become enlightened
My heart swells
My ears open
I see with new eyes
My mind expands
My ignorance lessens
I see myself in others
I’m no longer superior
I help brothers and sisters
Broken together
We grow as one.

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[29 Mar 2016 | 2 Comments | ]

Marcie Monkey hadn’t been happy for months,
She and her husband, Titus Turtle, sought help,
Together they consulted Ollie Owl, the respected healer,
“How can I help you?” Ollie asked
“I can’t make Marcie happy,” Titus’s eyes moistened
“Nothing I do cheers her up.”
Marcie nodded, both sides of her mouth turned down,
She sat still in her chair, not like her vibrant self,
“I do everything I know how,” said Titus
“The harder I try, the unhappier she gets,”
Ollie sat forward looking eye to eye with Titus
“It’s not your job to make Marcie happy,” he said
“You can’t make …

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[26 Feb 2016 | No Comment | ]

A lively monkey and a quiet turtle fell deeply in love and married
Marcie Monkey respected her turtle for being calm, cool, and collected
Titus Turtle adored his monkey for her exuberance and excitement
In time, Marcie complained her turtle didn’t share his feelings
Titus prayed his talkative monkey would restrain herself
Both blamed their partner for the problems in their marriage
Marcie suggested Titus learn to dance and be more talkative
Titus chided Marcie for expressing her every feeling
He wanted to fix her “problem” of having strong emotions
Marcie wanted more sharing from her subdued turtle
Titus sought peace and …

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[19 Dec 2015 | No Comment | ]

Santa Claus is a messenger from God,
He shares abundance, generosity, jovial caring,
Scrooge and the Grinch are stingy,
Wearing wizened hearts and shrunken souls,
We strive to be Santa and not Scrooge,
Copious presents and seven course meals,
Too much of a good thing boomerangs,
God disappears in “stuff” and a Roman orgy.
 

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[24 Nov 2015 | No Comment | ]

You cannot do anything
That contradicts your self-image,
Henry Ford observed:
“If you think you can, you can
If you think you can’t, you can’t
Either way you’re right.”
Be bold: do what you would do
If you knew you could not fail.
@Dr. Doug Welpton

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[13 Nov 2015 | No Comment | ]

How to stop worrying.

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[29 Mar 2015 | No Comment | ]

Part 2: Pioneers Have to Invent a Successful Marriage Lacking a Model from their Parents
 
Our meetings continued.  Steve’s tone mellowed and he became less self-righteous.  Carey sat forward on the sofa and her tone became more assertive.  With joy she announced her new job. Her former boss now worked for a different company.  When she phoned him, he eagerly employed her.
“I feel appreciated again!” Her tone bubbled with excitement.
With new confidence, Carey spoke what she’d been holding in. “I hate your smoking pot,” she said to Steve.  “It’s not just …

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[24 Apr 2014 | 2 Comments | ]

Jennifer phoned me.  She said her marriage was in serious trouble. She asked for an appointment with her husband as soon as possible.  I saw them later that day. 
I shook hands with Jennifer and Carl and motioned them toward the blue sofa in my office.  They sat down more than an arm’s length apart. Carl had intense blue eyes and a restrained smile. Jennifer was a beautician with large brown eyes and swept back auburn hair. Both were in their thirties.
“How can I help you?”
Carl sat back: “I …

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[12 Dec 2013 | 2 Comments | ]

Four-thousand miles zipped by as I flew to Hawaii to meet my one month old granddaughter.  Dawn is a divine spirit with inquisitive blue eyes and fine, strawberry blond hair.  She’s a larger than life spirit, measuring in the ninetieth percentile for both length and weight.
My daughter, Kristen, had to climb a tall mountain to have her first child.  She was forty-three and had endured four miscarriages. This pregnancy was diagnosed within a week of conception, and for the first time the doctors immediately gave her Progesterone to prevent …

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[10 Sep 2012 | No Comment | ]

In this radio show Ernestine Hendricks and I discuss the problem of procrastination, having dreams but not the discipline to carry them out. Expectations of others are premeditated resentments. Self-respect and not acting in ways that cause you to disrespect yourself is critical to your success. Love is a feeling but more importantly it is a commitment. When two individuals come together in a marriage each tries to convert their partner to their values and worldview. The gift of love is to be yourself and respect your …