Advice in Love Relationships » financial infidelity

Tiger Woods: affairs admission opens way to an honest life

drwelpton — Tue, 01 Jun 2010 18:18:52 +0000

In their show “The Bottom Line of Romance” my discussion with Larry Arnette and Sharon Stevens discusses sexual and financial infidelity using Tiger Woods affairs as an example. The sudden shattering of his pristine image has shocked the world and his fans, and the initial cover up has provoked more media attention to the full story and details, creating a conflict between “too much information” and “celebrity gossip.” With the admission of his affairs Tiger Woods has lost his previous image but freed himself from living a secret double life. Living with secrets makes us sick through dishonesty and shame. Tiger is now free to use his courage to live an honest life, which is the best way for him to win back his family and his fans. We discussed, as well, how to stop arguing for the sake of your relationship and how to work on rekindling your romance. I offer a free ebook which can be downloaded from my website: www.talk2myheart.com to guide you through the steps to have a successful conversation about money and infidelity, both sexual and financial. For relationship tips and advice, links to articles in CBS Moneywatch.com, Investor’s Business Daily, and radio shows, plus my blog see my website: www.adviceinloverelationship.com.

How couples talk successfully about finances and money

drwelpton — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 18:55:07 +0000

Host Rick Vazquez, author of “The Pizza Delivery Millionaire” and host of the Web Talk Radio show titled “Winning in the Game of Life” discusses with me how couples can talk successfully about their finances. The steps I explain include giving each other a reward for the discussion, learning to appreciate what your partner contributes to your financial process, setting aside the time, talking without criticism or blaming, and using a positive tone while making eye contract. To avoid judgments couples use “I” not “you” statements and limit themselves to just three sentences during their turn to speak. Each commits to something they will start doing immediately to help financially. They can trade off whose purchase they put first each week or each month or however often they agree they can afford the purchase. Giving to your relationship instead of keeping score on purchases can advance your relationship to a new level.

How to Discuss Money without Arguing or Fighting

drwelpton — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 21:14:12 +0000

Host Don Campbell and I discuss the unintended consequences of divorce. Money is one of the leading causes of divorce, especially when a spouse has the mindset that your partner should think like you do, that is, that your partner who is a spender should become a saver or vice-versa.
There are several steps each of which adds to your success in a money conversation. Starting by giving your partner a reward that they want at the end of your discussion helps build pleasure into what can otherwise be just a painful conversation.
Appreciating how your partner’s differences contribute to your financial relationship helps.
Learning to discuss money like business partners without criticizing or blaming is essential.
You each take responsibility for your thoughts and feelings and commit to one activity you will begin to do immediately to help financially.
You each learn to focus on carrying out your activity and sharing your appreciation over what your partner carries out.
You finish by giving each other the rewards you asked for, like a foot massage or a back rub, listening to a piece of music, holding hands–activities that bring pleasure to your money conversation.

Tiger Woods difficulties: can he recover? Dean Johnson, WCAP Host

drwelpton — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 16:01:20 +0000

What got Tiger Woods to throw away what appeared to be a perfect life? Something was missing: do he and Elin talk? Was it his father’s death? Golf as a childhood? His parents’ separation? His wife’s first pregnancy? Can Tiger recover? Can his marriage be saved?

Tiger Woods admits affairs: can he recover? Gary Pozsik, Host, WGCV, 620 AM

drwelpton — Tue, 15 Dec 2009 02:41:31 +0000

Gary Pozsik, host at WGCV, interviewed me about Tiger Woods. He asked: how could someone who had everything, like Tiger, do what he did? How can we explain his affairs? What might be the consequences for his marriage? What would I recommend that Tiger and his wife do?

Tiger Woods: affairs admission opens way to an honest life

drwelpton — Sun, 13 Dec 2009 04:07:29 +0000

With the admission of his affairs Tiger Woods has lost his previous image but freed himself from living a secret double life. Living with secrets makes us sick through dishonesty and shame. Tiger is now free to use his courage to live an honest life, which is the best way for him to win back his family and his fans. We discussed, as well, how to stop arguing for the sake of your relationship and how to work on rekindling your romance.

Tiger Woods and Celebrity Affairs

drwelpton — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 03:31:10 +0000

Why do celebrities have affairs? Here are many reasons:

Marc Pearlman interviews Dr. Doug on YourMoneyMattersradio.com

drwelpton — Tue, 24 Nov 2009 03:07:07 +0000

Financial Infidelity: What is it and how to stop it. Cheating with money is a major threat to marriages and a leading cause of divorce. Bob’s wife even stole his identity to register their car in her name and use it to get a loan. She pawned her wedding ring and engagement ring. She kited checks from their bank accounts and told the bank Bob did it, getting him kicked out of the bank.
She even forged checks on their 19 year old son’s account. Financial infidelity can destroy marriages and families. Learn how to avoid it and what to do to stop it and correct it. Listen to this very informative program:

Tom Barnard interviews Dr. Doug, Savers & Spenders join as a team to avoid Financial Infidelity

drwelpton — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 20:39:24 +0000

Avoid Financial Infidelity’s High Cost

leilimckinley — Wed, 07 Oct 2009 19:24:04 +0000

Dr. Doug is interviewed by Paul Katzeff about the high cost of Financial Infidelity to couples. You can read the rest of the article here.

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