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[1 Feb 2017 | No Comment | ]

 “We have to talk,” she says,
I hear: “You need to listen to me,”
She has no problem talking,
I have a problem listening,
I’m used to sounding off,
I relish sharing my thoughts,
Listening is a challenge,
To open my ears and my heart,
To accept opinions other than my own,
How dare she be different from me!
Have her own thoughts and feelings!
My Father whispers to me:
“You can’t listen your way into trouble,
To listen is to Love.”
©Dr. Doug Welpton

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[26 Feb 2016 | No Comment | ]

A lively monkey and a quiet turtle fell deeply in love and married
Marcie Monkey respected her turtle for being calm, cool, and collected
Titus Turtle adored his monkey for her exuberance and excitement
In time, Marcie complained her turtle didn’t share his feelings
Titus prayed his talkative monkey would restrain herself
Both blamed their partner for the problems in their marriage
Marcie suggested Titus learn to dance and be more talkative
Titus chided Marcie for exploring her feelings
He wanted to fix her “problem” of having strong emotions
Marcie wanted more sharing with her subdued turtle
Titus sought peace …

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[29 Mar 2015 | No Comment | ]

Part 2: Pioneers Have to Invent a Successful Marriage Lacking a Model from their Parents
 
Our meetings continued.  Steve’s tone mellowed and he became less self-righteous.  Carey sat forward on the sofa and her tone became more assertive.  With joy she announced her new job. Her former boss now worked for a different company.  When she phoned him, he eagerly employed her.
“I feel appreciated again!” Her tone bubbled with excitement.
With new confidence, Carey spoke what she’d been holding in. “I hate your smoking pot,” she said to Steve.  “It’s not just …

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[17 Nov 2012 | 27 Comments | ]

Change your mindsets/beliefs to change your relationship, to live in Heaven rather than Hell. For example, you don’t have to think alike about saving and spending your money to bring together your different mindsets for the good of your marriage. Seeing what’s positive in your partner’s beliefs about money rather than what’s wrong can help you work together and be in Heaven rather than in Hell.

Change your mindsets/beliefs to change your relationship, to live in Heaven rather than Hell. For example, you don’t have to think alike …

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[1 Apr 2012 | No Comment | ]

I had last seen my friend fifty-six years ago. I was a student in his psychology class at Stanford University. At that time he was known as Richard Alpert, Ph.D. He is now known as Ram Dass. Between these two names lies an inspiring story, one in which he got de-tenured as a professor from Harvard University to be redeemed as a holy man in India. He returned to America to teach the spiritual beliefs and practices of Eastern religions to those Americans eager and yearning …

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[22 Feb 2011 | 2 Comments | ]

Marriage is not obsolete, especially when you replace your dysfunctional mindsets with beliefs that support your relationship.

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[4 Sep 2010 | One Comment | ]

One-third of married couples suffer from low sexual desire and the absence of love-making. Dr. Doug shares the stories of couples who are solving their intimacy problems on “Your Time with Kim” (Iverson) .

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[6 Aug 2010 | No Comment | ]

Phil was having difficulty being intimate in his marriage. He pulled back from having sex for fear of being rejected. His wife was the one person with whom he shared himself. Without her, he was alone and lonely. He had all his eggs in one basket. Right now he and his wife could not talk without provoking painful feelings in each other. Phil’s responses felt like shaming criticisms to his wife.
As he grew more comfortable …

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[8 Jul 2010 | No Comment | ]

Dr. Doug Welpton talks with Mike on the Mike Bullard Show about love, good sex, intimacy, and lust. Dr. Doug says we have been sold a bill of goods being led to believe that using sexy videos leads to good sex in relationships and marriage. Lust leads to sexual pleasure and a temporary high, but it does nothing to promote love. A relationship is built on sharing yourself, your thoughts and feelings, with your partner. Lust does not promote intimacy. Sex based on lust is …