Advice in Love Relationships

Dr. Doug Welpton talks with Mike on the Mike Bullard Show about love, good sex, intimacy, and lust. Dr. Doug says we have been sold a bill of goods being led to believe that using sexy videos leads to good sex in relationships and marriage. Lust leads to sexual pleasure and a temporary high, but it does nothing to promote love. A relationship is built on sharing yourself, your thoughts and feelings, with your partner. Lust does not promote intimacy. Sex based on lust is …

Host Rick Vazquez, author of “The Pizza Delivery Millionaire” and host of the Web Talk Radio show titled “Winning in the Game of Life” discusses with me how couples can talk successfully about their finances.   The steps I explain include giving each other a reward for the discussion, learning to appreciate what your partner contributes to your financial process, setting aside the time, talking without criticism or blaming, and using a positive tone while making eye contract.  To avoid judgments couples use “I” not “you” statements and limit themselves to …

Gerry and Joan are like bookends.  He is as loud and talkative as she is quiet and restrained.  When it comes to their finances, as you might expect, he is the big spender and she is the saver.  Gerry works hard and brings home a substantial paycheck.  However, he also loves to spend and he often overspends compared to what he earns.  Joan does her best to constrain him.  She attempts to reason with him about not going into debt just to buy a flashier car.  In general, Gerry sees …

Prior to the recession money had not been a problem for Stan and Melissa.  Both worked full time and earned enough so they were somewhat lax about a budget.  Without warning Melissa was unexpectedly laid off.  With Melissa’s help Stan drew up a budget. They became much more thoughtful about their purchases.  They both shared a concern:  they were used to buying what they wanted with no need to check out their purchases with each other. They did not want to be policing each others purchases or having to justify …

Brain Greenberg of WNJC,1360AM, Sewell, NJ, interviews Dr. Doug about Financial Infidelity. You can listen to the interview here.

Talk Show host “Bulldog” at WOCM interviews Dr. Doug regarding how to attract Love, Sex & Money in a marriage.  Money is a leading cause of conflict in marriages.  A lack of teamwork on their finances causes problems for spouses with trust, love, and sex.  Can two spenders or two savers work together better than a saver and a spender?

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The vexing problem for Kate and John is that they are allowing their marriage to be triangulated.  First by TLC and their television program, then by other people like his “dating,” her bodyguard, and whoever else.   Triangulating is putting someone or something else ahead of your spouse which now creates a triangle by making a third interest your priority.  Through triangulation they are permitting other people, or even interests such as making money by being on television, to come between them.  I would expect this process to continue unless they …