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[1 Feb 2017 | No Comment | ]

 “We have to talk,” she says,
I hear: “You need to listen to me,”
She has no problem talking,
I have a problem listening,
I’m used to sounding off,
I relish sharing my thoughts,
Listening is a challenge,
To open my ears and my heart,
To accept opinions other than my own,
How dare she be different from me!
Have her own thoughts and feelings!
My Father whispers to me:
“You can’t listen your way into trouble,
To listen is to Love.”
©Dr. Doug Welpton

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[7 Nov 2016 | No Comment | ]

I’m a shining bell
My perfection protects me
Nothing can penetrate
My inside is pitch black
My shell gets cracked
Brokenness opens me
I’m no longer perfect
Light enters the crack
I become enlightened
My heart swells
My ears open
I see with new eyes
My mind expands
My ignorance lessens
I see myself in others
I’m no longer superior
I help brothers and sisters
Broken together
We grow as one.

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[26 Feb 2016 | No Comment | ]

A lively monkey and a quiet turtle fell deeply in love and married
Marcie Monkey respected her turtle for being calm, cool, and collected
Titus Turtle adored his monkey for her exuberance and excitement
In time, Marcie complained her turtle didn’t share his feelings
Titus prayed his talkative monkey would restrain herself
Both blamed their partner for the problems in their marriage
Marcie suggested Titus learn to dance and be more talkative
Titus chided Marcie for exploring her feelings
He wanted to fix her “problem” of having strong emotions
Marcie wanted more sharing with her subdued turtle
Titus sought peace …

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[3 Jan 2016 | 2 Comments | ]

To blame no one but myself,
To take full responsibility
For everything I’ve said or done,
Thought or felt,
Wow!

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[25 Feb 2014 | No Comment | ]

Joan’s Cape Cod cottage was nearly finished.  This second home fulfilled her dream.  Joan longed to retire to this cozy cottage at the end of her Information Technology career.  She grew more excited every day as her new home approached completion.
There was a problem, however.  Her mother was coming to see the cottage.   Joan was pleased that her mother was taking the trouble to drive several hundred miles to see her new home.  At the same time she dreaded that her mother would find something wrong with her cottage. 
“My …

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[20 Dec 2012 | 2 Comments | ]

“Every kingdom divided against itself is brought to desolation…” Matthew 12:25
The presidential election is over and Barack Obama has been re-elected. Many of us are happy and filled with energy. Many of us are sad and dispirited. All of us, however, suffer from this painful truth: we are a deeply divided nation. Our nation is frozen in gridlock between opposed views of governing. One side wants larger government, whereas the other side wants smaller government. Democrats and Republicans are not communicating with each other. The tragedy is that no one …

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[28 Mar 2012 | No Comment | ]

Is the Law of Attraction Paradoxical?
Have you ever given up hoping for something you wanted to happen only to have it happen? Were you delighted and surprised? I have been when this happened to me. What bothered me, however, was that I couldn’t figure out why it did happen. If the Law of Attraction worked the way I thought it would, why would it happen in this paradoxical way? I am sure this same …

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[8 Mar 2012 | No Comment | ]

Kristen came to therapy for help with bouts of depression, especially when she had gained a few pounds.  During counseling she said that her father left her mother when Kristen was one and a half.  He left his wife to marry another woman with whom he started a second family.  When Kristen visited he made her feel she did not measure up to his new family.  Visiting him was very painful for her.
I told Kristen that she was suffering from shame, not natural shame like embarrassment, but toxic and carried shame. Toxic shame is toxic to our self-esteem and …

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[18 Feb 2012 | No Comment | ]

You can change your life no matter how old you are by recognizing the mistaken beliefs (dysfunctional mindsets) that limit you and your relationships.
You have to replace those mistaken beliefs with truths (functional mindsets).
It is not enough to have these new ideas or truths in you thoughts. You must hold them in your heart.
Ernestine Hendricks, the hostess on WTWG 1050 AM, and I discuss examples from my life and from my work with clients.

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[16 Jan 2012 | No Comment | ]

“There are two ways to live your life—one is as though nothing is a miracle, the other is as though everything is a miracle.”—Albert Einstein

John and Laura came to me for help with their marriage. They complained about problems communicating with each other.
During our first meeting I asked Laura, “What’s causing you the most pain?”
“I’m depressed and lonely,” she said. I saw a tear in the corner of her eye.
“Tell me more about it,” I asked. “What’s depressing you and making you lonely?”
“John’s so busy with his …