Advice in Love Relationships

You can change your life no matter how old you are by recognizing the mistaken beliefs (dysfunctional mindsets) that limit you and your relationships.
You have to replace those mistaken beliefs with truths (functional mindsets).
It is not enough to have these new ideas or truths in you thoughts. You must hold them in your heart.
Ernestine Hendricks, the hostess on WTWG 1050 AM, and I discuss examples from my life and from my work with clients.

Feeling enormous pain, shame, anger, and hurt when you are betrayed by your spouse’s having an affair leads commonly to feeling you want to divorce. Is this the best reaction to follow? Is it what’s best for you? Is it what’s best for your children? Give yourself time enough to calm down and think rationally rather than blindly following your feelings. Ultimately, the decision is yours.
I have counseled many couples who recovered from affairs. Many of them had better marriages because they learned to share more …

Tiger Woods, Jesse James, and ex-Governor Eliot Spitzer have all had sexual affairs. Sexual addiction appears to have caused them to cheat on their wives at great cost to their marriages, their families, and their careers. Feelings of shame and unworthiness underlie the lust and drive to have compulsive sex as a way to relieve feeling unworthy. Compulsively driven sex and infidelity, however, only cause more shame and feeling worth-less. A vicious circle of inner conflict and torment results. The marriages and careers of the sex addict are diminished or destroyed as a consequence.

Sex addiction is promoted by our society’s focus on lust and the false idea that lust promotes good sex and even love. Sex addiction can be healed through knowledgeable counseling and recovery groups.