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The Compulsive Use of Sex Videos Destroys Marriages & Relationships

8 July 2010 No Comment

Dr. Doug Welpton talks with Mike on the Mike Bullard Show about love, good sex, intimacy, and lust. Dr. Doug says we have been sold a bill of goods being led to believe that using sexy videos leads to good sex in relationships and marriage. Lust leads to sexual pleasure and a temporary high, but it does nothing to promote love. A relationship is built on sharing yourself, your thoughts and feelings, with your partner. Lust does not promote intimacy. Sex based on lust is focused on: what can you do for me to give me pleasure? Advancing beyond lust to caring for your partner works better for the relationship. We focus on: what can I do for you to give you pleasure?
To build a relationship beyond giving each other pleasure requires self disclosure and vulnerability. Most everyone has some anxiety about sharing themselves. Most people do not like to feel vulnerable. However, there is no way to become intimate without feeling vulnerable. It is when we trust enough to take the risk to share our inner thoughts and feelings that we build a solid connection with our partner. Intimacy (into-me-see) is the cornerstone of a love relationship.

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