You can Recover from Infidelity. Marriage is Not Obsolete.

Ernestine Hendricks and I discuss common challenges in marriage including infidelity and why marriage is not obsolete on www.WTWGAM1050.com.
Affairs are a prominent cause for divorce in today’s marriages. Affairs arise from disconnection in a marriage. Spouses stop talking with each other, stop sharing what’s important. Women feel loved and valued through the connection that comes with sharing. Men want to feel respected for their opinions and their achievements.
When we stop feeling loved, valued, respected, or appreciated we tend to go elsewhere. We find someone else when we don’t discuss the problem with our spouse. Someone else is always available. Invariably there is someone else who is searching for love or respect.
There is an old saying: “Money goes where it’s treated best.” The same is true for people. We gravitate to where we feel appreciated, valued, and loved.
Sexual affairs are not as much about sex as they are about emotional connection, about feeling wanted, desired, respected, and valued.
Infidelity begets a raft of excuses. We justify it because of what our spouse did nor did not do. The very act of needing to justify our behavior speaks to our guilt and shame. Infidelity is a failing to honor a commitment. When we dishonor a commitment, we dishonor ourselves.
The love we lost or dishonored during the infidelity can return. I have seen it happen. Reconciliation is hard work. There is much pain and guilt and shame to be digested. Both partners have their work to do. Blame is not the issue. If blame remains the issue, no reconciliation will truly occur.
With God’s help love can return. It is the grace of God that we count on to rehabilitate and restore us, to rise beyond our failings, to become the best that is in us.
The kingdom of God is within us. We need to grasp it, grapple with it, and express it. We can recommit ourselves to a failed commitment. With God all things are possible, including repentance and the resurrection of love.

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CD1: Financial Infidelity & Money
CD2: Is my Partner the Right Person for Me?
CD3: To Stay or Not to Stay: Considerations before Divorcing
CD4: Stop Arguing for the Sake of Your Relationship

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