I am Doug Welpton. I am a Board certified psychiatrist and psychoanalyst. For more than forty years I have focused on helping individuals and couples with relationship issues both through counseling and leading workshops.
I graduated from Stanford University, Harvard Medical School, and the Boston Psychoanalytic Institute. I began to develop my expertise in family therapy starting with a two year Clinical Fellowship at the National Institute of Mental Health in Bethesda, MD following my residency training in psychiatry at Harvard, where I was a Teaching Fellow in …
Dr. Doug Welpton talks with Mike on the Mike Bullard Show about love, good sex, intimacy, and lust. Dr. Doug says we have been sold a bill of goods being led to believe that using sexy videos leads to good sex in relationships and marriage. Lust leads to sexual pleasure and a temporary high, but it does nothing to promote love. A relationship is built on sharing yourself, your thoughts and feelings, with your partner. Lust does not promote intimacy. Sex based on lust is …
Tiger Woods, Jesse James, and ex-Governor Eliot Spitzer have all had sexual affairs. Sexual addiction appears to have caused them to cheat on their wives at great cost to their marriages, their families, and their careers. Feelings of shame and unworthiness underlie the lust and drive to have compulsive sex as a way to relieve feeling unworthy. Compulsively driven sex and infidelity, however, only cause more shame and feeling worth-less. A vicious circle of inner conflict and torment results. The marriages and careers of the sex addict are diminished or destroyed as a consequence.
Being a sex addict is not an excuse for lust or compulsive sex. Admitting you are a sex addict is the first step toward recovery. Recovery is a challenging process of weaning. The addict must learn to give up acting on impulse. He must give up the feeling of entitlement that he has a right to whatever he wants. He has to develop the boundaries and discipline to say ‘no’ to himself before engaging in sex, before touching, …
In their show “The Bottom Line of Romance” my discussion with Larry Arnette and Sharon Stevens discusses sexual and financial infidelity using Tiger Woods affairs as an example. The sudden shattering of his pristine image has shocked the world and his fans, and the initial cover up has provoked more media attention to the full story and details, creating a conflict between “too much information” and “celebrity gossip.” With the admission of his affairs Tiger Woods has lost his previous image but freed himself from living a secret double life. …
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