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[18 Nov 2015 | No Comment | ]

I had to learn
Not to take everything
Personally
I imagined whatever happened
Was because of Me
Years of experience
Taught me
Very few happenings
Were about me
I didn’t cause them
I couldn’t control them
I wasn’t in charge
With time and experience
I gradually learned
To ask myself
When something happened
“If this isn’t about me
What’s it about?”
My answer was much
Closer to the truth
When I grasped
It wasn’t about me.
 
©Dr. Doug Welpton

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[17 Nov 2015 | No Comment | ]

You can’t
Shame me
Without my consent
 
©Dr. Doug Welpton

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[16 Nov 2015 | No Comment | ]

I turn my other cheek
To show you
I am your equal.
Even though you strike me
My self-respect
Does not lessen.
 
©Dr. Doug Welpton

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[13 Nov 2015 | No Comment | ]

How to stop worrying.

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[12 Nov 2015 | No Comment | ]

Accessible
Open minded
Listens
Makes decisions
Explains what and why
Honest
Acts
Blames no one  
Unites people                                          
Takes responsibility
Apologizes for mistakes
Learns lessons
Credits advisers & God
Inspires

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[10 Nov 2015 | No Comment | ]

If what you think of me,
        Means more
Than what I think of me,
    Who’s in charge of
           My life?
 
© Dr. Doug Welpton

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[1 Nov 2015 | No Comment | ]

Alone you carry your water jar to Jacob’s well
No neighbor comes at noon in desert heat
What deters you from joining other women?
Fetching water you meet a dusty thirsty rabbi
Parched with no vessel he says “Give me a drink,”
You question how a rabbi could ask you for water
Jews have no dealings with Samaritan outcasts like you
Who marry non-Jews and worship at Mt. Gerezim.
 
He remains seated and looks up to you standing
You expect a rabbi to rise and talk down to you
He says your water will slake thirst for a moment
Offers you …

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[14 Oct 2015 | No Comment | ]

You walk the beach

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[10 Sep 2015 | No Comment | ]

I ran the dusty path beside the pond
Gazed into endless azure sky
You lifted me suddenly off my feet
I soared upward weightless in Your grasp
Ascended sunlit shafts between clouds
Astonished, I gazed upon Your welcoming face
Beheld infinite tenderness in Your eyes
My heart leapt when You softly smiled
I knew serenity beyond comprehension
 
 
Boldly I reached my arms toward You
Gently You clasped my calloused hands in Yours
Filled my body with Your golden light
Melted away fear-filled walls around my heart
Thrust Your love into my hardened soul
I felt such wholeness, such peace I cried aloud
Shed tears of …

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[24 Aug 2015 | 2 Comments | ]

Part 5  The Cost of Financial Infidelity
 We met three weeks later.   
They sat on the sofa, I in my chair with the round leather-topped coffee table between us.
“I’ve cut down on pot,” Steve said. “I’m determined to stop in a week.”
“Are you okay with that?” I asked.
“Not just okay. I feel better, even proud.  The Buspar takes the edge off.”
“It’s good not to have the smell in the house,” Carey said.
Steve nodded. “I’m coughing less.”
 “Good!” I smiled.  “How’s it going with Vanessa?”
“It’s over,” Steve replied.  “We haven’t seen each other since …