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[12 Dec 2013 | 2 Comments | ]

Four-thousand miles zipped by as I flew to Hawaii to meet my one month old granddaughter.  Dawn is a divine spirit with inquisitive blue eyes and fine, strawberry blond hair.  She’s a larger than life spirit, measuring in the ninetieth percentile for both length and weight.
My daughter, Kristen, had to climb a tall mountain to have her first child.  She was forty-three and had endured four miscarriages. This pregnancy was diagnosed within a week of conception, and for the first time the doctors immediately gave her Progesterone to prevent …

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[14 Nov 2013 | 2 Comments | ]

   “Because with every action, comment, conversation, we have the choice to invite Heaven or Hell to Earth.” ― Rob Bell, author of Love Wins.
 
Bret phoned. “I need an appointment. Today!”
I had not heard from Bret for months. I had enjoyed counseling him.  Like Moses he was meek—he was willing to learn.
We met that afternoon in my office.  Sixty-one, tall and athletic, Bret’s shoulders slumped. Once captain of his college tennis team he is now a low handicap golfer.  Dressed in coat and tie he wore his usual winning smile …

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[13 Apr 2013 | No Comment | ]

Click on this Youtube video:   www.youtube.com/watch?v=HF6LAEoWmGkOh my freaking God Wow wow wow This is just amazing  Here is divinity on demonstration in the grace, sensitivity, trust, and creativity between a man and a woman as they share their talents with love.

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[20 Dec 2012 | 2 Comments | ]

“Every kingdom divided against itself is brought to desolation…” Matthew 12:25
The presidential election is over and Barack Obama has been re-elected. Many of us are happy and filled with energy. Many of us are sad and dispirited. All of us, however, suffer from this painful truth: we are a deeply divided nation. Our nation is frozen in gridlock between opposed views of governing. One side wants larger government, whereas the other side wants smaller government. Democrats and Republicans are not communicating with each other. The tragedy is that no one …

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[17 Nov 2012 | 27 Comments | ]

Change your mindsets/beliefs to change your relationship, to live in Heaven rather than Hell. For example, you don’t have to think alike about saving and spending your money to bring together your different mindsets for the good of your marriage. Seeing what’s positive in your partner’s beliefs about money rather than what’s wrong can help you work together and be in Heaven rather than in Hell.

Change your mindsets/beliefs to change your relationship, to live in Heaven rather than Hell. For example, you don’t have to think alike …

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[10 Sep 2012 | No Comment | ]

In this radio show Ernestine Hendricks and I discuss the problem of procrastination, having dreams but not the discipline to carry them out. Expectations of others are premeditated resentments. Self-respect and not acting in ways that cause you to disrespect yourself is critical to your success. Love is a feeling but more importantly it is a commitment. When two individuals come together in a marriage each tries to convert their partner to their values and worldview. The gift of love is to be yourself and respect your …

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[14 Jul 2012 | 2 Comments | ]

I feel sad when I listen to politicians who want to lead our nation resort to the blame game. The blame game takes two forms: we blame others for what we think, feel, say, or do in the “blame-others” mode. Or, we blame ourselves for what others think, feel, say or do in the “blame-self” mode. With most politicians we do not need to worry about their using the “blame-self” mode because above all else they are at pains to disown any responsibility for …

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[12 Jul 2012 | 2 Comments | ]

Something exists in many of us that desperately needs to be right and finds it difficult to admit making a mistake or being wrong. When something goes wrong we immediately look for someone to blame. We abhor being blamed ourselves. I have seen this in myself. It has been hard for me to own making a mistake, yet I have found that nothing terrible happens when I do. My wife doesn’t divorce me. In fact, she tells me she loves me even more when I …

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[11 Jun 2012 | No Comment | ]

Resentment arises between partners when one feels “better than” or “less
than” the other. Partners need to discuss their resentments and work on
changing their self-images to rectify feeling and seeing themselves as
inferior or superior.

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[24 May 2012 | No Comment | ]

Scott started our meeting. “I think I’ve found a solution to Karen’s feeling unequal,” he said with excitement.
“What do you have in mind?” I inquired.
“It’s a surprise,” Scott answered. “I wanted to share it with you right here,” he said as he turned toward Karen.
“What are you talking about?” she asked.
“I realized recently that no matter how long you work at your job because of your pay scale you will never be able to save very much for your retirement,” Scott said. “I decided to give you …