Advice in Love Relationships

“Judge not, that ye be not judged. For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged…” (Matthew 7:1-2)
Kelly had a problem trusting her mother, Belle. Growing up she felt like her mother manipulated the truth. When her mother was dishonest she felt queasy in her stomach even though she couldn’t confirm the deceit. As a consequence of being deceived, Kelly’s sense of reality was changeable. She wasn’t sure what to believe or what she could count on.
Kelly’s family is enmeshed; they are …

Feeling enormous pain, shame, anger, and hurt when you are betrayed by your spouse’s having an affair leads commonly to feeling you want to divorce. Is this the best reaction to follow? Is it what’s best for you? Is it what’s best for your children? Give yourself time enough to calm down and think rationally rather than blindly following your feelings. Ultimately, the decision is yours.
I have counseled many couples who recovered from affairs. Many of them had better marriages because they learned to share more …

Paul Moore and Kim Jones, co-hosts at WVVI, 93.5 FM, ,St. Croix, Virgin Islands discuss with me the challenges of marriage.
It is a challenge to change your dysfunctional mindsets like when you realize you believe a good marriage should not have conflicts or arguments. You avoid discussing the issues that cause you pain and end up getting divorced because your conflicts have not been resolved.
It is a challenge to be a divorced mother and a single parent to your children even while it feels better than remaining in a painful …

Phil was having difficulty being intimate in his marriage. He pulled back from having sex for fear of being rejected. His wife was the one person with whom he shared himself. Without her, he was alone and lonely. He had all his eggs in one basket. Right now he and his wife could not talk without provoking painful feelings in each other. Phil’s responses felt like shaming criticisms to his wife.
As he grew more comfortable …

In their show “The Bottom Line of Romance” my discussion with Larry Arnette and Sharon Stevens discusses sexual and financial infidelity using Tiger Woods affairs as an example.  The sudden shattering of his pristine image has shocked the world and his fans, and the initial cover up has provoked more media attention to the full story and details, creating a conflict between “too much information” and “celebrity gossip.”  With the admission of his affairs Tiger Woods has lost his previous image but freed himself from living a secret double life.  …

Sex addiction is promoted by our society’s focus on lust and the false idea that lust promotes good sex and even love. Sex addiction can be healed through knowledgeable counseling and recovery groups.

Tiger Woods was devastated by his father’s infidelities with his mother, Tida, according to his first girlfriend, Dina Parr. His father, Earl, had been unfaithful to his first wife, Barbara, too. Tiger’s pristine image has been shattered, he has lost advertising sponsors, and his marriage to Elin Nordegren is headed toward divorce with painful consequences not just for Tiger and Elin but for their two young children as well.
Tiger is faced with a life changing decision: whether to confront his infidelities and his legacy from his otherwise revered …

What got Tiger Woods to throw away what appeared to be a perfect life? Something was missing: do he and Elin talk? Was it his father’s death? Golf as a childhood? His parents’ separation? His wife’s first pregnancy? Can Tiger recover? Can his marriage be saved?

Gary Pozsik, host at WGCV,  interviewed me about Tiger Woods.   He asked: how could someone who had everything, like Tiger,  do what he did?  How can we explain his  affairs?  What might be the consequences for his marriage?  What would I recommend that Tiger and his wife do?

In their show “The Bottom Line of Romance” my discussion with Larry Arnette and Sharon Stevens discusses sexual and financial infidelity using Tiger Woods affairs as an example. The sudden shattering of his pristine image has shocked the world and his fans, and the initial cover up has provoked more media attention to the full story and details, creating a conflict between “too much information” and “celebrity gossip.”
With the admission of his affairs Tiger Woods has lost his previous image but freed himself from living a secret double life. …