What do Tiger Woods, Jesse James, & Eliot Spitzer have in common?
What would make Tiger Woods cheat on a woman as attractive as Elin Nordegren or Jesse James cheat on an exceptional woman like Sandra Bullock? Why would Eliot Spitzer behave in a way that forced him to resign from being the Governor of New York to say nothing of what he did to his marriage?
Tiger Woods’ multiple sexual infidelities have made sex addiction a topic of major interest. An addiction is compulsive behavior the addict cannot stop even when it is harmful to him or her. Each of these men led double lives at great cost to their marriages and their careers. Elin and Tiger are living separately, his golf game has suffered, and his golf swing coach has quit. Jesse James has openly regretted that he threw away the marriage of his dreams to Sandra Bullock. Eliot Spitzer is trying to make a new career for himself having thrown away the governorship.
The sex addict becomes dependent on sex to get a “high” that relieves inner feelings of shame and feeling unworthy. Lust does not lead to love or even to good sex; it leads to more lust to relieve shame and emotional pain. It is difficult for us to believe that our celebrities feel shame and a lack of worth, even when we are confronted with examples in the lives of people like Princess Diana, O.J. Simpson, President Clinton and now Tiger Woods. We judge people by their outsides not knowing their insides.
Sex addiction is a vicious circle that causes the addict endless pain. Contrary to the popular belief that sex addiction is just an excuse for fooling around and having fun, sex addiction is marked by recurring feelings of unworthiness, guilt, and emotional pain. Sex addiction leads to a vicious circle. The addict has sex to relieve feeling unworthy and undeserving only to feel more guilt, shame, and worthlessness from having compulsive sex while cheating on their spouse.
For more information see other articles on this website, recordings on this website posted from radio shows, and my Facebook page: http://www.facebook.com/home.php#!/AttractLoveIntimacyandMoney?ref=sgm